How Safe Do You Feel Feeling Safe?
I am embarking on some new territory in a way, and am inviting you to join me here.
This post begins a series focused on helping us all to recognize defenses that we have, that we may be unaware of that are blocking us, limiting our lives from what they could be, from joy, from great possibility and synchronicity, from love, from manifesting goodness, from experiencing supportive and expansive community, and so much more…
The more I engage in this process, the more aware I become of my own defenses and the ways I am limiting my possibilities through them, and the more I want to release old patterns, habits, fears, discomforts that are remnants of the past, not serving the now, not serving me now. They are here because they were here; they emerged as ways to try to protect myself from physical and emotional threats; they became reinforced by beliefs of those around me, beliefs I generated myself in reaction to pain and fear. They helped at the time, but now they block even my own energy away from me; they tell me I am not safe, when I am; they tell me to fear, to not trust, to not risk, to not open…and every time they do this, I choose smallness and confines over possibilities.
I do not want to do this anymore. Or rather, I want to release these patterns when I discover them and I want to accelerate the rate at which I recognize and heal them, freeing the energy I need to move into new possibilities, to actualize from the field of possibilities.
If you want to do the same, I invite you to join with me in these series of both posts and podcasts, though much more powerfully through the podcasts!
Here are some quotes I have harvested for this that help us envision larger possibilities, clearing the path for greater motivation, inspiration, energy, and trust that it is possible to experience our lives in a much more expanded way where the dreams that we have held do come true, where a feeling of purpose in our individual lives strengthens, where life becomes so much more than we thought it was!
“Happiness is intrinsic. It’s an internal thing. When you build it into yourself, no external circumstances can take it
“Live wholeheartedly. Be surprised! Give thanks and praise! Then you will discover the fullness of your life.” –Brother
David Steindl Rast
“May you be truly blessed to always glitter with a radiance that shines from deep within you.” — Barbara Becker Holstein
“What a wonderful life I’ve had. I only wish I had realized it sooner.” — Collette
“Happiness is really a deep harmonious inner satisfaction and approval.” — Francis Wilshire
“That is happiness – to be dissolved into something complete and great.” — Willa Cather
“A Happy Heart Makes its own Song” — anonymous
“When you finally allow yourself to trust joy and embrace it, you will find you dance with everything.” — Emanuel
What is it that comes with feeling safe, feeling safe that is not part of your life now?
But what do they really feel like…what is your experience of being defended…how does it really make you feel, and if it does make you feel a kind of safety, take some time to explore what that safety is about…how much risk are you really at from the things you fear? some people say that people don’t really want to be free, they want to be safe. And at one level, people retreat from life believing that this will make them safe. If I don’t go out, don’t go to new places, if I stay with what is familiar, known, trusted, then I will be ok. I will believe in this dogma and follow what these people tell me to do because it will quiet my fears and anxieties. This is not the kind of safety I am talking about, because there is so much fear that underlies this kind of retreat.
What we are about here is realizing, then releasing the ways we have kept ourselves small from fear, the ways we limit our options, our choices, the ways we let ourselves fall into patterns that crystallize our lives, our emotions, beliefs, our bodies. And then we can wonder why our life doesn’t feel so good. Why do others seem happier, seem to have better lives. We can, of course, fall into the victim mentality with this, or perhaps, not consciously wanting to be victim, acquiesce to the challenges of taking responsibility for our growth, and accept what is from a more defeated place.
Allow yourself a few moments to reflect on some of the ways you don’t feel safe.
Here are some categories of ways we don’t feel safe: within ourselves, with our emotions, in our bodies, with others (strangers, colleagues, neighbors, friends, family, in intimacy, with the world of humanity, in the world, being alive, being alive now, with/through God/All That Is.
See if you can experience your own defenses…how they enfold you attempting to protect you…if you know how to do the tapping or the Tapping Into the Field process, you might want to stop now and do this on what is coming up for you…
And can you see any joy or happiness or peace cuddling up with those defenses? From here, what feelings and experiences are these defenses allowing and what ones are they blocking?
This exploration is very powerful. It is going to the core of the structures we have created to keep us safe when we didn’t have the power to be emotionally and physically safe around others who were much bigger than we were, others who had developed in ways that unintentionally or purposefully frightened and hurt us…These structures designed as they are to help, have limited our experience of what’s possible here more than we will likely ever know in this life time. It’s why some people are now seeing that we are so much more powerful, creative, expansive, than we ever even came close to dreaming that we might be.
And our capacity to experience wondrousness, joy, peacefulness, blissful connection is only limited by our defenses and our fears…
This session above and the podcast, is designed to listen to repeatedly. Every time you engage in this it will take you somewhere else inside that is waiting to be healed and released.
I wish for you a Light-filled life!
Leaning into the Light,